Masturbation & Orgasms
Masturbation is incredibly normal and being able to reach an orgasm by masturbation can improve your sex life and relieve sexual tension. Some young women find it difficult to reach an orgasm with another person so the first place to start would be to reach an orgasm by themselves so they know what turns them on. Then they can guide their partner.
The clitoris is the anatomical match to the penis and is the most sensitive part of the female anatomy with about 8,000 nerve endings. Over 80% of women reach orgasm by stimulation of the clitoris rather than through intercourse. As the clitoris becomes aroused it swells as it contains erectile tissue and becomes more sensitive. After a clitoral orgasm the vagina may become tighter, heightening the pleasure of vaginal intercourse. Women can also orgasm through vaginal stimulation. The G spot (Graffenberg spot) is a subject of much debate and some say it does not exist. But many feel that it is the stimulation of this area, a patch of walnut-like tissue located in the vaginal wall, that is responsible for vaginal organisms.
It is not uncommon for women to experience multiple orgasms. It takes time and practice.
And do not forget about the breasts and buttocks. Many men and women get turned on by stimulation of these areas. Men have a prostate gland in their anus, which can heighten sexual feelings when touched, which is one of the reasons anal sex can lead to orgasm.
Anal sex in women is often shown in porn. It can be very pleasurable for a man as a woman’s anus is often very tight but it can be very painful for a woman. Anal sex will not be acceptable to some women and men must respect their boundaries. Just because they have consented to sex, does not mean that they have consented to every possible act. If anal sex is attempted, it should be taken slowly to ensure the woman is not in undue pain and a lubricant should be used. The tissues in the anus can tear and lead to damage.
Up to 40% of women sometimes experience ejaculation of between 30 and 150ml of clear fluid during orgasm. It spurts from the Skene’s glands which is located close to the urethra. It is known as squirting or gushing. A woman may feel she is wetting herself, but female ejaculation is quite normal and the fluid is not urine.
